I find it hard to believe just how frequently and quickly the characters in War and Peace fall in and out of love, or at least how frequently they claim to fall in love. This cycle is primarily attributed to the women in the book, while the men act as the objects of their affection. There are obvious exceptions to this role, as Anatole chases after many women throughout the book, but it would also be easy to argue that he is not actually in love with these women and instead simply enjoys their interest in him.
Natasha is the main character who is at the heart of many romantic relationships. Early in our introduction to her we see that she is in love with Boris, a family friend. Later, Nikolai returns home from war with his companion Denisov, who is instantly attracted to Natasha and quickly proposes to her. Although she isn’t necessarily reciprocating the feelings, the attention she receives at such a dramatic moment lays the ground for her future involvement in relationship drama. When she attends her first ball, her friend Pierre introduces her to Andrei, and their encounter leaves Andrei interested in marrying the young countess. Natasha seems to feel the exact same way, and has the full intention of marrying him and waiting restlessly for him to return from war to make it official. Everything changes when Natasha is introduced to Anatole, however, and she immediately doubts her love for Andrei. Natasha herself questions her ability to love multiple men at once, and wonders how authentic her interest in either man is. Natasha calls off her engagement to Andrei with the belief that Anatole will sweep her away. When Anatole’s plot to kidnap Natasha falls through, Natasha is left without any plans to marry, falls ill, and prays for her past lovers after realizing how tumultuous their relationships were.
Another character, Princess Marya, does not have the same history of falling in love repeatedly, but does experience the same abrupt interest in a man. Nikolai Rostov happens upon the Bolkonsky estate while moving through the countryside and ends up helping the Princess handle the muzhiks who have been giving her trouble. Nikolai makes a point of not engaging with her too much in an attempt to avoid any kind of relationship being sparked. His efforts do not work, however, as Marya seems to feel a connection to him after only a brief conversation. Love at first sight is certainly a legitimate feeling that humans experience, but it does become rather comical when the characters in War and Peace seemingly claim to fall in love in every other chapter of the book.
